Can Facebook worsen love relationships?
Have you ever arrived home very tired of work or university, and wanting
to have a break from problems of real life? Many times Facebook has played the role
of our entertainment; however, we don´t know how much it can affect our personal
relations. Recent studies have shown that there are certain features of Facebook
that make it a source of problems among couples. Many people have confessed that
they have had problems because of the information that is shared on Facebook. One of its characteristics is related to time;
not only the time that they spend on the social network, but also what are they
really doing on it during that period of time. Another important aspect is the over-informative
attribute that is related to Facebook. This means that you can control what you
write; yet you can´t control what other people write about you, what they write
on your wall, and what they read about you. For instance, a girl notices that her
boyfriend has accepted five friends requests of girls that she doesn´t know, so
they have an argument. Of course that
jealousy itself as well as self-esteem and emotional health are starting points
in these situations. What do you think is to blame? Is it technology that influences
our relations, or is our own personalities that we can´t control? 
It is funny to read something like this. I am sure most of people have had certain problems when referring to this social network.
ReplyDeleteThe problem here is that we might get mad or upset for a post published on walls from our beloved ones, but many times they are just innocent comments we tend to misinterpret because we cannot know what the other person is thinking, or why is making a comment if I don’t even know him or her.
I know people who had to close their Facebook accounts just because they had added new people their boyfriends or girlfriends did not about. Sometimes, it happens when you are free to check unimportant things, and that this site makes us believe they are actually relevant.
Unfortunately, we start feeling uncomfortable and perhaps hating this mass media, but it is not possible for us to stop depending on what the other person commented or published. It has become an obsession for a lot of young people, also for adults, and we like or not it will continue like this.
I agree with Karla, most of the times are just innocent comments that are take out from context. nowadays, people give too mucho importance to facebook's comments, comments that years ago people received personally or by msn, the difference was that your boyfriend/girlfriend didn't know about these so they simply didn't care.If you want to have a facebook account and a relationship at the same time you need to learn to control your jealousy or both parts of the relationship will have more than a bad time.
ReplyDelete"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned / Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." In 1697, William Congreve already described relationship problems, as the same as, the distrustful nature of the woman. Facebook and other social networks have made this evident, but it is not its blame. Comunication seems to be the key for a happy relationship, so the next time you see a suspicios post or whatsover, tak to you yor guy before releasing the Glenn Close who sleeps inside you.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree that Facebook is the worst tool for relationships, but we don’t have to blame technology. As we were discussing in class, the technology is not the one to blame, it’s us and the bad use of it. We get angry for things that have a solution. I heard lot of times that couples have discussions about what is share in Facebook, and I have to admit that sometimes I have problems about it. It’s so annoying because we should care about real people with real lives, we shouldn’t care about cybernetic lives. Also, we should trust in our beloved ones, not in comments that appear from nowhere.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with all of you. In my opinion it is not technology fault, it is how people react to certain facts. Of course there are some features of social networks that leave not space to privacy, but again, distrust is part of human nature,isnt it?
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