Nowadays,
human beings tend to take a relationship less serious than in the past. For me,
it seems they prefer having affairs and having no compromises with anyone; the
problem here is when you are committed and involved with your girlfriend or
boyfriend and you really want the relationship lasts. What can you do then?
Experts say
that unconditional love is not healthy at all. There should be limits to establish
reciprocal and loving partnership to keep your heart straight.
Dr. John
Marsden from UK, describes love as a drug pretty similar to dopamine - which is
liberated by the brain when it is aroused. “Attraction and lust really is like
a drug. It leaves you wanting more," the National Addiction Centre head
said.
It means
while you are falling in love you do not want to leave that person, and you
start wanting her or him more and more, sometimes desperately. Your heart beats three times faster than in a
regular bases and causes “blood to be diverted to the cheeks and sexual organs,
which causes also the feeling of butterflies in the stomach, he says. What an
extraordinarily experience so, why it is so dangerous?
Other scientists
affirm that in that state, people do not think rationally and “The suppression of neural activity in
areas involving critical thinking and judgment suggests that love is not only
blind, but also stupid,” says Dr. Karin Anderson, Associate Professor
of Psychology and Counselor Education at Concordia University in Chicago.
Perhaps, boundaries are directly related
to putting us in a more balanced way and make us diminishing needless arguments
between you and your partner.
Do you
think love could make us vulnerable? I am not saying we should love another
person, but isn´t it true that sometimes we avoid getting into a boy or a girl,
only because we are afraid of what may happen next? There is an article that
may help to understand better this idea.
I don't believe that love make us more vulnerable; on the contrary,being in love puts out the best of us. Some people mistake to be in love and to have a crush. wen you have a crush you make all that you can to catch his/her attention, and sometimes that mars your judgment, and probably if things went wrong, you would finish with a broken heart. That's the price you have to pay in the game of love. Hate the play not the player, or whatever!
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